ALCHEMIZING Your Message: Part Three - Episode 144
Once you know what you want to do and how you want to show up differently or what you want to lean into...what is the process THEN?! This is the nurture phase, the life-habit changes, the belief shifts, the REAL process that creates REAL change. This is what I'm calling Alchemy. It's the long-game of it all.
Barsi [00:00:00]:
It's the foundational process that will nurture you through a transformation or a shift or a new way or a leaning in or a reconnection. Whatever it is that you are thinking about now, this is really for you. If you're doing that, if you're trying to lean in further to your truth as you create your next thing. And these all require that nurturing of yourself to connect with your inner wisdom, with your true self, tapping into your creativity and your flow and your ease and your trust in yourself and letting go of the things that no longer serve you. It all begins by understanding the mind. I want to be happy now. I don't care about the future. I want to be happy right now.
Barsi [00:00:53]:
You are not alone. You are never, ever, ever alone in this. Tell my V Grow and given me freedom to be creative on my own I'm Christina Barci. Welcome to Be Bold Begin, a podcast dedicated to you, the creative, the healer and the innovator. The topics and conversations we have here are designed to help you discover what might be getting in your way and offer you tools, techniques and guidance to move through them. I live in the impostor's body more than I live in my own body. I don't have to feel like I don't deserve this. This is where creativity and healing intersect.
Barsi [00:01:31]:
If you decide to be Bold and begin, you have the opportunity to feel humbled and empowered. I totally believe that. I'm a certified Kaiser Muse Creativity Coach, a certified Reiki energy healer and an entrepreneur, artist and presenter. I will share with you my experiences, my proven tools and techniques that helped me and my clients and loved ones shift and expand in the areas they most desired. This is a gentle and open space where you will hear how others are being bold to encourage you to begin your own journey or expand the one you're on. This is Beeple Begin. Hi, welcome back. This is Varsity, your host and if you are enjoying this three part series then I am guessing you are currently finding yourself in a transition or in an in between stage at the moment.
Barsi [00:02:27]:
These spaces of discovery that happen in the cracks of our lives between the certainty and the possibility, are full of transformation and possibility. They are also full of feelings of uncertainty, healing, letting go, and oftentimes some fears. Because creating change for ourselves, even if it's the thing that you've been waiting for, or the thing that will ultimately change your life, or bring you closer to your purpose, or reconnect you and realign you with yourself, even then it can be all of these things at once. Scary Exciting, confusing, painful, and amazing. It can also feel as though you need a moment to simply rest and slow down. Sometimes these moments come out of a place of burnout or overwhelm or a need for change. We talked about activation in the last episode, and sometimes activation happens by slowing down, by taking a breath, finding the stillness, and making space for a new practice. This is also part of the activation stage that leads to the transformation that leads to the shift.
Barsi [00:03:48]:
So when I talk about alchemy today, talking about this nurturing of the transformation, this care that needs to be taken of cultivating a new practice with new habits in order to bring something new into your life, bringing it into your life in a new way as well, really creates a lasting transformation that really alchemizes your shift. So I think this is what I don't hear enough of when I listen to how we create shifts in our lives. And a lot of people, a lot of people talk about, you know, what needs to change and how we create that change, but how do we actually nurture ourselves through the change, through the transformation? That's where the road gets really rocky. I can give you how to's and exercises all day long, but to truly walk through the transformation, that is the long game. That's the part that really allows for the shift to be sustainable. The true process it takes to do this is what I want to talk about today. So the slowing down to speed up part, the changing of the habits, the daily differences that need to happen to bring in something differently. So of course, we have to first become aware to gain the access which was part one.
Barsi [00:05:23]:
Then we need to create some small steps to begin to activate the new process and walk forward in our fears. That was part two. But then we need to begin to embody a new way of creating, a new way of showing up, a new way of whatever it is that we are wanting to do, or a new way to tap into our true way of creating that honors ourselves for that authenticity and alignment. Meaning we have many, many, many layers that we wear in different situations, even with ourselves. There's things that get buried just by living life through time that may be blocking some of our core messages even from ourselves. Right. Our subconscious mind can kind of keep those things from us until we start allowing it to come forward. We're often very busy navigating our lives, walking through the how to get to A to B.
Barsi [00:06:25]:
Sometimes the reasons we do the things we do can get a little buried. That's kind of the place where your authenticity lives. That's where we want to start aligning, you know, the outside world that we're experiencing that we are walking through in certain ways, right? We're participating in that. We really want to start aligning our experience with how and who we really are at our core. But we need to get access to that core first. Then we need to start doing things slightly different and activating what we learn from our core in ways that feel exciting, that feel new, that feel creative, that feel energizing. And then sort of through that activation, we make discoveries in whether we want to keep moving forward in. In creating in a certain way, whether it be sometimes we create things that are really, really big, or sometimes it's just a transformation in our.
Barsi [00:07:21]:
In our own life and how we show up. Sometimes we're wanting to make something like a book or a podcast or, or a business or a brand or some way that we want to show up differently that requires some creativity as well. There's so many ways that this can start to show up in our lives. This sort of calling, if you will, or this sort of nudge or this pulling that there is something else that you're wanting to explore. So wherever you are in that, we have to do all of those things, right, to kind of get to the message, the thing that we are really wanting to say and. Or explore that we want to say, right? And it evolves. But in order to go on that journey, we have to go through the awareness to gain the access to start activating it in these different ways to see what resonates, to see what. What works.
Barsi [00:08:16]:
And because that journey can take time, and for it to evolve and grow, we need to nurture it. We need to embody the core part of who we are so that when we need to shift, how we're exploring, we know when to shift. And we are trusting ourselves and we're connected to that, and we stay connected to, you know, the core reason that we want to make a shift or want to show up differently and all of that. So that's what we're talking about today. It's the sort of foundational process that will nurture you through a transformation or shift or a new way or a leaning in or a reconnection, whatever it is that you are thinking about now, this is really for you. If you're doing that, if you're trying to lean in further to your truth as you create your next thing. And these all require that nurturing of yourself, to connect with your inner wisdom, with your true self, tapping into your creativity and your flow and Your ease and your trust in yourself and letting go of the things that no longer serve you. And we say that all the time, you know, just let go of that.
Barsi [00:09:37]:
That is no longer serving me. But what does that really mean, to let go? It's not always the easiest thing to do. So if you're feeling that way, you're, you're okay, you're normal. It's part of the process. So alchemizing this way also means continuing to gain more access and more awareness and more activation. It is what brings you closer to yourself to better serve yourself in this next chapter that you're cultivating. So how do you begin? Well, one way to start is to begin to add new habits like habits of gratitude. Creating a gratitude practice some way that is easy and small and simple so that it is a like a habit to your day.
Barsi [00:10:28]:
New habits around self love, new habits around self trust into your daily life. It's really these small things that start to develop a new experience for you in your daily life. And then notice what needs to possibly go from your daily life again coming back to that what is no longer serving you, what kind of small habits are no longer serving you. And then we come back to this awareness stage right in this, in this part of the process too. It comes back to awareness and access and activating and putting action to it. So it could be something as simple as. Well, when I get up in the morning and I just sit down and start watching tv, does that actually serve me? Let's say that's a habit you have. Or am I better served when I wake up and do yoga right away, let's say, or I wake up and I step outside for a few moments and do a quick journaling or whatever.
Barsi [00:11:32]:
These are just ideas. But that's a simple way that starting your day differently can really impact the way you walk through the rest of your day. And it can be a simple five minute difference. And those things can be truly altering and they're small and easy to shift. But we have to really get out of our comfort zone a little bit to shift. Things that I that are habits are not easy. That's why people don't do it. We would all just be excelling all the time and super in our awareness and knowing when our habits aren't serving us anymore.
Barsi [00:12:06]:
And we would just do all the things that are better for us. I mean we know those things that we're not always focusing on them. So when you're ready to create change, now's a good time to focus on those things to accelerate that change, to support that change. It's more of a supporting. It accelerates when you get good at it, meaning you get into practice, which is what this is. It's developing a new practice for yourself. So journaling is another great way to begin practicing this as well as trying a meditation practice. I love guided meditations.
Barsi [00:12:46]:
I love meditation music. It really changes the energy for me if I need to tap in to myself. Speaking of myself, I asked myself recently what I felt would help me in this process, as I am also in the middle of cultivating new actions to honor my purpose right now in my life. Lots of change, lots of transformation for me this year. And I'm going through this whole process right now in my life. So when I walk you through these things, they are. I know that they work and I know how it works because I am doing it too. See.
Barsi [00:13:30]:
So when I was trying to think of what this episode would be and how I would explain this today, I thought about it for a while and I just came back to the simple question of asking myself, what do I want? What would I want right now? And this is what I came up with. The thing that I heard loud and clear was community. I want to be in community. I've been trying to create community for a long time, and I have in many ways, but not for this specifically, not in a way that really honors this process that I love, this process that we just went through, part one through three, right? And it's a big process, it's an ongoing process. And I've been thinking about it a lot in how to support someone through a process like this beyond a couple of episodes, right? And I asked myself, what. What would I want? What would feel supportive to me? And it came back to this idea of creating a sacred space, creating an engaged space for us to do things like this together. And what really clicked for me was realizing I wanted to be in that space with other women, with other people who identify as women. So that was my light bulb moment.
Barsi [00:15:01]:
So being in community, that feels nurturing and like minded and gentle and sacred and healing and connected and engaged. So that is what I know helps me grow when I'm looking to incubate and alchemize new energy in my life. And the messages I've heard from conversations with other women in my life that I either work with or have come across through my existing community or also through work women who are in leadership positions who. And also just friends who are ready to create in a way that feels meaningful and fulfilling for them. And I feel the same way. I really relate to that and I'm constantly trying to lean in more to that as much as I can, when I can. And that's what I want for them and that's what I want for me. And I.
Barsi [00:16:02]:
And as I listen to them, there's, there's a level of burnout sometimes or exhaustion and really wanting to feel invigorated and inspired again and knowing that they, they can be and that they are because they have a spark and a fire inside them when I talk to them about what they are passionate about, what they care about, and they just want to experience that more in their daily life. And so do I. I went through a couple of years of major burnout too, because I, I got lost along the way as well. Like we all do when we are fearful, focused on a lot of tasks at hand that we're trying to just get through and when we are just getting through the day, we are not enjoying the day, we are not spending time, you know, connecting to ourselves and, and sometimes we lose track of, of stuff. And I have all the tools that I, at my fingertips that I could have. But we need each other to come into that awareness. And it wasn't until other people in my life would gently bring that into my awareness that I was able to get the access, get the awareness, make the change, do some activation. So community, it really comes back to being in a safe space where we can be together and grow together and have this awareness together and, and cultivate it in a way that is not just safe because we are aligned and together, but safe because I am a certified coach and I am a certified Reiki healer.
Barsi [00:17:47]:
So there are structures in place that are there beyond just being like minded. And I think that's really important when we are creating spaces of growth together. So all that said, you've probably figured out that I will be creating a sacred and healing space for women, identifying leaders and creators who are wanting to really shift into this purpose led version of yourselves as you create, as you transform, as you lean into yourselves into your truth. And it will be a curated paid membership where we can meet each other and learn from one another and be in process and be in practice together. Because when we have some skin in the game, for lack of a better phrase, we engage differently, we show for ourselves differently. So I do think it's actually important for our own accountability and engagement to have it be a membership that isn't free. And that's what I've learned about Things that I pay for, I treat them really differently when I feel that I've made an investment. And I also feel differently when I make an investment in myself.
Barsi [00:19:05]:
There's something about that that always feels really exciting to me. And I love, I love doing that when I can, particularly in times when I really want to be in a space like this and grow and sort of soak up that kind of energy and it, and it's always really exciting to me when I put the money in on it and I do the course or, you know, I've spent thousands of dollars on stuff like that and I don't regret it. I've gotten so much out of them. And I know the difference of a free Facebook group, for example, or something that I've wanted and no feels aligned to me. It's very energizing. So that's the, that's the reason I think it's an important piece, actually. So in this space, each week I plan to offer a journal prompt. And each week we'll meet live for 30 minutes for different things.
Barsi [00:20:05]:
They'll, they'll be sort of on a schedule. So we'll do guided meditations. One week we'll do creativity activation or exercise. We'll, we'll do gratitude practices. I'm going to bring Reiki back into my practice. We'll do some energy healing, we'll do discussions together. And I'm calling it the Goddess Sanctuary. And you can actually apply now to reserve your spot to be in this process with other amazing high level women who are also change makers and heart lit leaders, including myself.
Barsi [00:20:43]:
And this, this is the announcement I've been waiting to share with you that I promised I would in the last couple of episodes. So this is it. This is how we can work together. And I'm really excited about it. It feels really good to me. So I hope it does sound as exciting to you. I'm really excited to share this space with you. It's something that I've wanted to do for a long time and it finally revealed itself in how I want to do this.
Barsi [00:21:11]:
And the structure and the timing finally became clear to me as well. So you are also the first ones I'm sharing this link with. So you get first dibs. It's in the show notes like always click the link to apply to the Goddess Sanctuary because you are truly a goddess. We are connecting to, you know, that very beautiful core, powerful part of ourselves. And that word to me just sounds really fun and I like it. So I hope you like it too. And I'M asking you to apply because I want you to be in a community that is engaged and aligned.
Barsi [00:21:49]:
Just why I want there to be a price point to really changes the way we engage and when we apply we have to think about our answers and that ensures that we are also an aligned group of people. So if this is feeling exactly like what you need, then please apply and we need your beautiful energy and creativity in the world and in this space. So I can't wait to read your application and I'll see you next week. We hope that these episodes inspire and empower you to take your next steps in your own intuitive journey towards a life or business that feels clear, authentic and aligned. And if you're ready for more tools and guidance like courses and free events, then I'd love to invite you to my new Intuitive Creators Academy and Collective. It's free to join. Just follow the link in the show notes and remember to DM me once you get there to receive a special gift for being a listener of people. Begin.
Barsi [00:22:54]:
I'll look forward to seeing you there.
